“The big talk” Every child needs to have it, and every parent needs to do it. For better or worse, with each generation, children are
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becoming more sexually aware at a younger age.
As a parent, it’s important to answer the tough question of where babies come from in a factual and age appropriate way. The discussion of conception and birth shouldn’t be a one time only talk, but instead a conversation that begins basic and young which grows and builds as your children grow, too.
If you’re feeling embarrassed, try not to show it, as even a 5-year-old can detect discomfort. You want your body language to be relaxed, therein conveying that sexuality is a healthy part of life and nothing to be ashamed of. Since your daughter trusts you enough to have asked her first question—”Where does the baby come out?”—she’s likely to want more information, such as how the baby was created. Be prepared to answer her in a matter-of-fact way. It’s best, however, not to go into more detail until she gives you clues that she wants it.
Such questions can be asked when your child is as young as 3 yrs old. So be prepared. Your answer should depend on your child’s age and understanding level. If your child is between 3-4 yrs, you can say that the baby grows from an egg in the mommy’s womb, pointing to your stomach, and comes out of a special place, called the vagina. If your child is a little older, you make take help of picture books, explaining a little about human anatomy. When you can, use proper terms to minimize confusion. For example, say “uterus” or “womb” to describe where the baby grows, not “tummy” or “belly.”The bottom line is answer truthfully. Do not make up false stories or make them feel that they should not ask such questions. Be honest and open.
Kids can come up with the most unexpected questions. The more consistently you do that for your children, starting when they are very little, the more you are building a foundation of trust and openness. Being truthful, answering questions you may be uncomfortable with and finding out answers to things you’re unsure of will all go a long way in nurturing your communication and bond with them.
