People are decidedly resistant to change, yet if you think
about it a little changing is almost all we really think about. We want to
move forward, move away from negativity, move past the past, make a move into
self-actualization and move on with life. It’ll be hard to find a person whose
new year’s resolution is to stay exactly as they are throughout the year. We
are constantly looking to change, and change is certainly good at being
constant (admittedly not always quite in the direction we wish for though).

It is not difficult to make goals and to have something to
change towards, but not always easy to get there. Especially if it’s the kind
of goal that requires daily input from your end. Whether your goal is to lose
weight or write in your journal or meditate regularly for mindfulness,
contributing actively to meet these goals takes work. This is the beginning of
foresight, that you are not naive enough to think it will be easy. The truth is
that our experience has taught us everything we need to know about making our
future goals fruitful.

Here is a list of things your experience has already taught
you, and you simply need to tap into to move towards whatever change you are
looking to make this new year:

A goal is in the
Future. A goal refers to a point in the future we would like to reach that
we are not at in the present. For instance, wanting to lose 10kg sounds
exciting and big, and its enticing just to imagine what you’ll look like that
many kilos lighter by the end of the year. Unfortunately, our imagination stops
there and how we’re going to get there becomes as vague and uneventful as
I’ll exercise everyday. This brings us to our next point:

The path is in the
Present. We’re after what’s at the end of the path, but the path is unclear
in our mind to begin with. Transform future goals into present actions that you
are inclined to realistically engage in. If the goal is to lose 10kg the
path is formed by considering and specifying answers to questions like
the following: Will it be through diet or exercise or both? How much time in
the day can I realistically give to work on this goal? What meaning does this
goal really have for me? It requires great self-reflection to pave a path for
change.

Mood is
fickle-minded. Therefore, it is hard to simply rely on good intent and
willpower to make long-lasting changes because so much of our actions are
determined by what mood we’re in on a particular day, and for a lot of us, our
mood is difficult to control. Therefore, always look out for the part of you
that wants to cheat and get away from doing something. Practice mindful awareness and
recognize that your feelings or your mood don’t define who you are or what you
do. This is closely related to the next point:

The task will not
always be enjoyable. The steps required to reach your goals may not always
be enjoyable. Although research shows that one is more likely to continue
activities that they are interested in or enjoy doing, sometimes the plain
truth is that it may not be fun every day. Every attempt should be made to make
it fun for yourself, but on the days that it is not, understand that the
task does not necessarily have to be enjoyable in order to be important.

Decide the end when
you start.Good goals must have an end-date. Give yourself a specific
timeline to work on your goal, and give it closure. Recognize that routines are
not meant for forever because life is very long, and things will change.
Instead, simplify and make goals that are doable and that can be completed,
which in turn will make it more likely for you to be motivated enough to work
on new and other goals in the future.

The best way to develop foresight is to gather what you have
learnt from your past, because it gives you a perfect map of your record what
has worked for you, exactly what stops things from working, what motivates you
and what discourages you. The best way to develop foresight then is hindsight,
and the best way to implement change is action with insight.