In human relationships, we have interactions day after day and these relationships also become higgledy-piggledy.
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Let’s try to understand the concept of entropy. You bring a book home from the library, and then your father gives you another book as a gift. Your friend gives you magazines, and you have music CDs. They all pile up on a small table in your room, so now there will be enough clutter on your table. The rest of your room is also in a disorganized state. Your clothes are here, your socks are there and your towel is hanging somewhere. This is a disintegrated system, the system has gone haywire.
Entropy is the degree of disorder or randomness in any system. You get frustrated with the mess and clean everything up. You put each book where it belongs, wash your laundry and make your bed. Now the room looks cleaner than before, until again you start bringing more books and things, and again the system disintegrates and becomes disorganized. To keep things in order requires constant energy input.
Similarly we need input to stabilize any relationship, to iron out the wrinkles or differences, so that we don’t harbor and store things forever. The second law of thermodynamics says that entropy increases with time. It reflects the instability of a system over a period of time if there is nothing to stabilize it.
In human relationships, we let things build up in our inner chambers. These inner chambers become more and more disorganized as we store more and more, just like the books and clothes in our room. We keep harboring things, and one day what we harbor explodes, unless we do something about it. We need energy input to stabilize any relationship.
But do we have to do this every time we make a mistake? This would mean a constant investment to maintain a relationship.
When constant input is required every time there is a fight or an argument with a friend or family member, you will require greater input each time. At the same time, it is our business to love each other, at any cost. You will get hurt in the process, no doubt. There will be a lot of energy consumption from your side, but if you are prepared for it, the relationship will improve.
In a family, if you have to tolerate each other, then constant input is required. If you have to give constant emotional input, it is a broken family, even though you may be together.
When there is love among all, and when acceptance is there, then you do not have to resort to offering ice cream or going to some paradise vacation spot to patch things up. It is taken for granted that you accept each other with love. The conclusion is that it is the love that you have in your heart is the input that stabilizes relationships. There is a greater level of acceptance.
I am not talking about tolerance. Tolerance may be a great virtue, but when you feel, “I can’t tolerate this person’s mistakes,” love will iron out everything.
From where does this love come? From a pure heart, from a truthful, genuine heart. Distrust kills a relationship. In families where we are taught to love, to sacrifice, to accept and to remain pure, we are able to let go of everything. We can remove the incompatibility, by understanding this principle of entropy.
When the constant state of my being is love, then the need for constant input disappears. When zero input is needed, it means that it is the most stable relationship, the most stable family, where I don’t have to explain myself. Where there is love, there is no need for explanations.
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